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Doctor, Pregnancy and BDSM

By on Nov 16, 2014 in Dominance/submission, Pregnancy | 0 comments

The day I found out I was pregnant I was terrified. Happy – but terrified. Yep, there was the whole terror of what it would mean, if the child would be alright and so on. But there was another, a lot more practical fear. I knew this would mean I would have to go to the doctor as soon as possible and there were some telltale bruises along my back, as well as some scratches obvious in nature. I have not had occasion to go to a doctor for anything but routine checkups for a good decade and always considered it of little import were I to have any marks on me which showed my extracurricular activities. After all I am an adult and a consenting one. Pregnancy changes that. I have been out with pregnant friends and had complete strangers stop at our table to tell her that whatever she was eating, his she was sitting, even what she was wearing would be bad for the baby and how dare she. I...

Nipple Clamps and Pregnancy

By on Nov 8, 2014 in Dominance/submission, Pregnancy, Touch in Real Life | 0 comments

The first question here is obviously are nipple clamps safe to use in pregnancy? According to all information I can find, and everyone I can ask, there seems to be no reason why not to use them in the term of a normal pregnancy, at least in the first two trimesters. Always depending on the type of clamps – and of course personal sensitivity. I am not a doctor or a nurse, so all my knowledge has to depend on the research of other people but the situation seems to be that nerve damage in the nipples might affect the level of lactation. This is the reason why it is not advised to play with shaper edges and breasts in the last trimester. Moreover, the possibility of permanent nerve damage is a consideration to keep in mind whenever one plays, definitely if one intends to have children and breastfeed them later. But this is not news – before playing with clamps for the first...

Halloween the European Way – All Hallow’s Eve

By on Nov 2, 2014 in Touch in Real Life | 0 comments

All Hallow’s Eve, or Halloween as the American’s call it, is a strangely alluring festivity – and one which after disappearing in Europe is now coming back through its popularity in the US. But, contrary to what many people over here believe, there is a European origin to Halloween and in some parts of central Europe it is still holding on in small communities. I remember them, the celebrations and though they are very different from the American traditions the similarities are still visible. So what is the European All Hallow’s Eve? On November 1st, All Hallow’s Eve, the evening before All Saints Day, held a more pagan celebration. It was the evening where the winter spirits, waiting to invade the houses and take the souls of those living there. The houses need to be defended, the spirits scared away. How? Well, children would hole out sugar beets, a form of large turnip fed to...

Pregnancy and Sex I – Surprising changes

By on Oct 12, 2014 in Dominance/submission, Touch in Real Life | 0 comments

Pregnancy and the changes it caused for my sexual desires surprised me possibly the most. When realising that there would be an Infant Inconvenience (to borrow from Gail Carriger) I expected morning sickness which lasts all day, the soar breasts and mood swings (still waiting on those). I did not expect the changes it would wreck on my sexlife. I am not talking about a change in my libido (though nausea and sex drive did not mix well for a few weeks) but in the way I react to sex. I have become softer, am more drawn into myself. I shy away from rougher play but need the feeling of restraint, of being held more. I have little tendency towards esoteric musings as to the mother concentrating on the child or the softer nature of mothers as reason for my strange mental withdrawal – it is something more fundamental. It is fear. Am I happy about being pregnant? Yes – but I am also...

Pregnancy – somewhere between utter joy and utter terror

By on Oct 12, 2014 in Pregnancy | 1 comment

So, I have been gone for a few weeks without a word or explanation. Life got a little complicated. I am pregnant. Was it planned? Contrary to the panic which seems to be underlying the utter joy – it was kind of planned. But this is besides the point here. The point here is not even the strange mix of elation and terror. Or my absence. My point is that I seem to be unable to access any non-scientific literature which communicates any form of information of the state of pregnancy without myth, hearsay or cutsieness. It’s not that I mind reading academic literature but to understand what is happening to me I would need to acquire at least two more degrees, one in medicine, and I doubt this will be a viable plan in the six months time span remaining to me. So, I need an alternative. And one which does not drive me up the wall. One which does not call me “Mummy”, please. The infant...

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